Failure is not the end of you

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Once a wealthy and philanthropic father taught his son, “Failure and success are like seats in a Ferris wheel where some times failure is at the top and at other times success is at the top. Your aim is to keep switching to bigger and bigger Ferris wheel—where you enjoy bigger successes as well as experience bigger failures.”

That father was sure a wise man to know that failure is an integral part of success and without failure success is not possible!

Tell you what, when you have a big heart to lose you’ll create a big life to lead.

So never keep score of your failures. Just forget them and just focus on your successes. Never allow failure to daunt you and keep you from achieving what you are destined to achieve!

The following pattern has been the same for ages:

You begin a task or venture—fail—then you rectify things—try it again—fail—learn from it—try it again—then you succeed!

People who see failure as something that is not good, something sinister and that they must avoid would quit even during the initial stages. But successful people keep rectifying the errors amidst the failure experiences and eventually they succeed.

The following “Stops” and “Starts” would give you the boost you need and change your life for better :

STOPS:

Stop fearing failure:

The moment you stop fearing failure you get an invisible guarantee card for success.

Yes, fear of failure paralyzes you and stop you from moving forward and be your best. Don’t allow this to happen to you.

Overcome your fear of failure and be daring to fail even if it’s on a day-to-day basis.

Starting now, this very moment, conjure up your guts to face the fear eyeball-to-eyeball.

Stop avoiding failure:

Many men and women want to succeed—succeed greatly—but more than to succeed they also don’t want to fail.

That little population of winners world over doesn’t place any importance to their failure experiences except for the lesson they take from the experiences.

Don’t see a failure experience as something serious and BIG and end-of-everything. Just give a comeback.

Stop being embarrassed by failure:

Failure is not something to be ashamed of if you have given all you can and still failed.

Failure is something quite normal and millions and millions of people fail daily whether it is at a small level or at a grand level.

Failure is an essential part of success and without failure success is not whole as it is only those failures that prepare you for your success.

Erase this “Embarrassment” mentality forever and be ready to fail, even if it’s in front of millions of people!

Stop seeing yourself as failure:

When you fail, don’t label yourself as “FAILURE”. No you’re not and nobody is.

Your efforts have failed—your plan has failed—your approach has failed—your Strategy has failed, all of which could be changed; and not you (you have not failed). Just give it another try and keep at it until you succeed.

STARTS:

Start taking more planned steps:

Ordinary people attempt less, much less that they ought to be whereas victorious people try more. Fail more and, succeed more as well.

Those “extra” efforts make them extra-ordinary and that is possible only when you take steps constantly amidst your failure experiences.

Start to perceive failure as a valuable teacher:

Achievers see failure as a milestone which indicates they are nearing their city of success.

Learn from your failures what you must avoid and what you must adopt.

Above all, when you enter your classroom of failure just remember to leave your baggage of emotions on the outside.

Start to “start all over again”:

You will grow stronger, bigger and more powerful each time you come back to pursue your efforts after a failure, whether BIG or small.

Once you are no more embarrassed by your failure you’ll be more ready to try again and face it as it is!

Start seeing failure as a rehearsal:

Failure is the practice that you undergo for success and a practice that you must undergo. The more you practice the more adept you become at succeeding. So keep practicing!!

Without rehearsal one cannot expect to an excellent or top-class performer— you learn the nuances of life through failure.

It is those times that you fail which brings out the best in you and use your potential better the next time you try again. Through a battery of tests you season yourself for success. That is the miracle of failure.

Be like an anvil that worns out many hammers.

Finally remember the following lines:

“Failure is not the final stop. It’s just a full stop. You can always begin a new sentence.”

So if you have failed lately, just shake it off and start again.

All you got to do is to take the hits and keep coming back!

Wish you all the riches to come with God’s blessings


Peter Anand